I came to know the power of the word “beautiful” ever since I was told I was. I treasured it according to the world’s ways which is seeing physical beauty as a prized possession. After many years of adhering and wrestling with this stance, I have come to the conclusion that the “beauty” that God explains to us in His Word is the only TRUTH that sets free every single woman tied to the illusion that she has to keep up or be more.
John and Stasi Eldredge, the authors of the book “Captivating” put it perfectly saying, “A woman in her glory, a woman of beauty, is a woman who is not striving to become beautiful or worthy or enough. She knows in her quiet center where God dwells that he finds her beautiful, has deemed her worthy, and in him, she is enough.” The foundation of this godly wisdom does not just come from the contentment of what women see in the mirror. It originates from the heart.
In this light, let us examine the most universally appealing dimension of beauty the world celebrates: the “Beauty Within” wisdom taught by many teachers, myself included before my total surrender to and intimate walk with God. “As long as you are good on the inside or a good person, you are beautiful” is what it promotes in a nutshell. I became an advocate of self-love because of this until I found out through God-led experiences how broken and deceived I was. We may appear good, moral or “beautiful” to the world, but only God knows our hearts. I appeared beautiful to the world but at the center of my heart was ME. And I seriously struggled to find fulfillment in what I thought was the truth, not until He saved me out of love, out of mercy and out of His perfect nature of being my Savior, my Mentor and my Father.
As long as you are at the center of your life, you will always be a slave to your own subjective morality. The guidance that you get from self-love, self-help, your own understanding and experiences, new age teachings or any other teaching outside of Christ’s can imitate the Word but it can never sustain you for the rest of your temporary life. I have been there. WE CANNOT DO IT ALONE. We were not created to learn from our imperfect selves and others. We were all born flawed with a fallen nature from the very beginning. We need our Creator to guide us through this broken world. We need Jesus Christ- the Way, the Truth and the Life. We need Someone to tell us who we truly are and what beautiful really means. After a year of continuous sanctification, breaking, breakthroughs, open heavens and soul-nourishing days through His Word and fellowship with other believers and the power of the Holy Spirit, I conclude that TRUE BEAUTY is not perception. It is not simply found within because the heart’s motives can be deceptive. It is not found in this flawed world. It is found in having God as our supreme treasure, as most valuable and most desirable in our lives. HE is TRUE BEAUTY and the only way of magnifying what it means to be beautiful is following Jesus Christ.
Glorious truth, friends: the moment you accept Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior, repent for your sins and surrender your life to Him, you will be in awe on how He changes your heart, your life and the rest of the people in your life. No one in this world can do what He can do for you, in you and through you. This testimonial is only one out the millions out there coming from people of diverse backgrounds. And I am confident that we all share the same expression of the truth being we are most satisfied in Him not because of our own will power to be but because of His overwhelming everyday grace that goes beyond the natural. I sincerely pray that God blesses you with His life-changing grace that can lead you to the perfect love you need and have been searching for. “Such love has no fear, because perfect love expels all fear. If we are afraid, it is for fear of punishment, and this shows that we have not fully experienced his perfect love.” 1 John 4:18
From Stasi and John Edredge’s book “Captivating”:
“He will quiet you with his love” (Zeph. 3:17). A woman of true beauty is a woman who in the depths of her soul is at rest, trusting God because she has come to know him to be worthy of her trust. She exudes a sense of calm, a sense of rest, and invites those around her to rest as well. She speaks comfort; she knows that we live in a world at war, that we have a vicious enemy, and our journey is through a broken world. But she also knows that because of God all is well, that all will be well. A woman of true beauty offers others the grace to be and the room to become. In her presence, we can release the tension and pressure that so often grip our hearts. We can also breathe in the truth that God loves us and he is good.
This is a woman transformed and continues to be transformed by God Himself, not by man. And she is undeniably…fearless.
On True Beauty
“She is clothed with strength and dignity; she can laugh at the days to come.” Proverbs 31:25
“She speaks with wisdom, and faithful instruction is on her tongue.” Proverbs 31:26
“Charm is deceptive, and beauty does not last; but a woman who fears the Lord will be greatly praised.” Proverbs 31:30
“But let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God’s sight is very precious.” 1 Peter 3:4
“But he gives more grace. Therefore it says, “God opposes the proud, but gives grace to the humble.” James 4:6
“so that your faith would not rest on men’s wisdom, but on God’s power” 1 Corinthians 2:5
“Jesus answered and said to him, “Truly, truly, I say to you, unless one is born again he cannot see the kingdom of God.” Nicodemus said to Him, “How can a man be born when he is old? He cannot enter a second time into his mother’s womb and be born, can he?” Jesus answered, “Truly, truly, I say to you, unless one is born of water and the Spirit he cannot enter into the kingdom of God.” John 3:3-7
“If you confess with your mouth Jesus as Lord, and believe in your heart that God raised Him from the dead, you will be saved; for with the heart a person believes, resulting in righteousness, and with the mouth he confesses, resulting in salvation.” Romans 10:9-10
“Therefore if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creature; the old things passed away; behold, new things have come.” 2 Corinthians 5:17
“For by grace you have been saved through faith; and that not of yourselves, it is the gift of God; not as a result of works, so that no one may boast.” Ephesians 2:8-9
“He saved us, not on the basis of deeds which we have done in righteousness, but according to His mercy, by the washing of regeneration and renewing by the Holy Spirit.” Titus 3:5